Have you ever wondered if you could learn to love yourself more than you already do? For some people, this doesn’t really seem to be a problem. For others, it’s something that plagues them for most of their lives. When you really stop and think about it, it’s very sad when someone isn’t capable of loving themselves the way they should. It also has dire implications on virtually every other area of their life, including all of their relationships.
Reasons You Might Not Love Yourself
There are a lot of different reasons why a person may not love themselves. More often than not, it’s because they dealt with some type of physical or verbal abuse that caused them to believe they weren’t worthy. When a person is repeatedly told that they’re inadequate, inept, stupid, fat or ugly, they eventually learn to believe those lies. People that hear this type of talk repeatedly begin to feel like they have done something to personally deserve this treatment. Before you know it, the person that is being abused grows to hate themselves just as much as they should hate the words that are coming out of someone else’s mouth.
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This can do terrible things to a person. In a worst case scenario, many people have committed suicide because they became unable to love themselves and they couldn’t see a way out of the darkness. Even when people don’t commit suicide, they often live in this terrible environment where they can’t get out of their own heads and they feel like everything they say and do is a mistake. In reality, they feel like they are a mistake and they don’t deserve the same respect that everyone else does. Obviously, this has terrible implications on their relationships. It is virtually impossible to give your whole heart to someone else when you can’t give any of it to yourself. That’s why it’s so important that you learn to love yourself, because it has a direct impact on your ability to love others.
What Should You Do Now?
The question is, how do you learn to love yourself more, especially if you are a victim of abuse? The first thing you can do is realize that if someone is physically or verbally abusing you, it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Instead, it has everything to do with the person that is committing those atrocities. They are the ones that are struggling with something, and it is so bad that it causes them to lash out. They might treat you badly because they’re actually jealous of you or because you simply happen to be the one standing in front of them at the time. Either way, it really isn’t worth the time or effort on your part to figure out why. All you need to know is that you don’t deserve it and you can rise above it.
Practical Ways To Love Yourself More
You can do a lot of things to actively start loving yourself more. For example, you can pray. Praying is one of the best ways to learn to love who you are. It helps you love who you were created to be. You can also do other things to help change your mood, thereby making it easier to realize your own self-worth. Exercise and meditation are two of the best, most effective methods when it comes to learning how to relax and change the way you think about yourself.
If there is something specific that bothers you and prevents you from loving yourself more, figure out what it is. Write things down so you can sort things out better in your own mind. If you feel inadequate because you didn’t get a good education, you might consider going back to school. On a smaller scale, think about taking a class at night or on weekends and make sure it’s something that you’ve always wanted to learn how to do. If you don’t love yourself because somebody said you were overweight, think about it. It’s important to realize that what counts is who you are on the inside, within your soul. This is so much more important than the way you look. With that being said, it’s equally important to be healthy. If you’re packing a few pounds and you’re happy and healthy, don’t let what anyone else says bother you. If it’s something that already bothers you and you want to change it for yourself, you can always start exercising and watching what you eat. You might even consider working with a nutritionist or a personal trainer.
If you feel unloved and you start having problems loving yourself because you associate with a group of so-called friends that don’t treat you with any respect, stop spending time with them. This is scary at first, but it’s crucial. Think about the things you’re interested in and then strive to find new friends that have similar interests. This might take some time, but you’re likely to find it’s one of the best things that you could ever do for yourself.
As you can see, there are a lot of ways that you can start loving yourself more. One of the best ways is to refuse to let those negative thoughts take over you. When they start coming inside your head, force them to stop. Make yourself think about something positive. The earlier that you’re able to stop thinking negatively about yourself, the easier it will be to make a habit out of it. Remember, you deserve to love yourself because every person deserves to be loved and you’re not capable of giving that love to others unless you can first give it to yourself.
Do you know that you can always change your life for the better?
It doesn’t take a lot of your effort. And you don’t have to spend a lot of time struggling with it.
With only 15 minutes a day, now you can manifest the life of your dreams.